Hosting issues

arrrgh, I finally have all of my dns issues resolved and now my domain points to - nowhere!

I can't seem to get a hold of ABP to set things up on the server side. i also need to setup email addresses too, I would love to have the ability to setup and administer my own email addresses/accounts/lists, etc...

I wonder about these people http://www.3ix.org/index.php
is it a too good to be true? what's the catch?

EDIT: I just found out through a fellow penmaker who is also a Hosting co. that Hostmonster and 3ix keep control of your domain if you try to move away from them.